“Counteracting Self-Criticism…”

The best way to counteract self-criticism is to:

*UNDERSTAND it

*Have COMPASSION for it

*Then REPLACE it with a KINDER response

Neff, Kristin. (2011). Self-Compassion: Stop beating yourself up and leave insecurity behind. New York, NY: Harper Collins. P. 34.

“I’m Going to Beat You to the Punch and Criticize Myself Before You Can…”

“I’m going to beat you to the punch and criticize myself before you can.

I recognize how flawed and imperfect I am so you don’t have to cut me down and tell me what I already know.”

Neff, Kristin. (2011). Self-Compassion: Stop beating yourself up and leave insecurity behind. New York, NY: Harper Collins. P. 24.

“Self-Criticism Leads to Self-Handicapping…”

“Not only does self-criticism create anxiety, it can also lead to psychological tricks designed to prevent self-blame in the case of failure, which in turn makes failure more likely.

The tendency to undermine your performance in ways that create a plausible excuse for failing is known as “self-handicapping”.”

Neff, Kristin. (2011). Self-Compassion: Stop beating yourself up and leave insecurity behind. New York, NY: Harper Collins. P. 163.